The Soul Room

The hairdresser nearly fell over when my man escorted me in and announced that I wanted to shave my head!  I guess it’s not a request they get everyday.  Especially from a woman with really long hair.

What sparked this madness you ask?

Well, in a quest to strengthen my spiritual experience of life, it was symbolic of letting go of attachments to the physical.  I no longer have beautiful long locks as part of my physical package and attractiveness…  hence I have no choice but to recognise and remember that I am more than my physical body, and to not define myself and attach myself to the physical aspect of life.   I saw it as an opportunity to strengthen my own spiritual world…

I’ve always admired the women who have shaved their heads – either for a cause or for other reasons ranging from wanting healthier hair to just wanting big changes.   There are loads of reasons, including just wanting to be courageous!  After all, it is only hair.

The most interesting part about all of this was the mental resistance leading up to ‘the shave’ – it was certainly entertaining.  My mind came up with all sorts of resistance and reasons why I shouldn’t or couldn’t do it – it’s taken me at least 8 yrs to get my hair to this length!  What if my man isn’t attracted to me anymore?  Is my head a weird shape? Will I look funny wearing a dress?  Will I still feel like a woman… I was running one day and my long ponytail was shooing those pesky, sticky flies away and even that became an excuse – what will I do about the flies when I’m running! I even picked a fight with my man saying  ‘he caused me to lose my nerve’ Yes… it’s interesting when we see ourselves from a distance.

I came to realize that the fears and reasons my mind would cling to, would be endless – the mind has a tendency to do that with any type of change or new experience.

Eventually, my calm, strong, soul voice won the battle with my mind and it’s fears and doubts – and I just did it.

It was extremely liberating and freeing to shave it all off!  And to my partner and I, it also signified a new phase in our journey together as a couple.

Neither of us have any regrets  (and he still loves me – even more )  and I think every woman should feel the liberation and do ‘the shave’ at least once in her life!